7 Surprising Signs He’ll Never Marry You
The tricky thing about womanizers is that they usually have their game down pat, which mean it’s easy to get sucked in. They seem totally sweet and charming on the surface — who’d ever guess they were secretly scoundrels? So to help you sharpen your man-whore radar, we narrowed down the more subtle clues a guy has a case of commitment phobia. Cosmo says, if he exhibits three or more of these, watch out!!
1. All of His Exes Are “Crazy”
Be wary of a man who refers to his former girlfriends as crazy, psycho, or clingy — because what’s the common denominator here? Him. The guy is either a dick, or he never really wanted the relationship to work in the first place.
2. He Plans Ultra-Romantic Dates
A cozy candlelit dinner is nice and all, but if he only takes you to secluded places, it could be a tip-off that he doesn’t want other women to spot him on a date. Next time he asks you out, suggest hitting up a busy restaurant or popular bar and see how he reacts.
3. He’s Hot and Cold on the Phone
He’ll text you 10 times in a night, then go MIA for days. He’ll chat on the phone for an hour, then ignore your messages for the rest of the week. Wondering what the hell is going on? We’re going to be brutally honest: He’s mostly likely busy dating other women.
4. He Guilt-Trips You
It’s normal for a guy to be dying to sleep with you from day one. But this behavior is a red flag if he a) lays the pressure on thick, or b) tries to make you feel bad if you choose not to have sex — like by giving you you a sob story about blue balls.
5. Stuff Is Missing from His Facebook Profile
Has he untagged any photos of you and him? Does he post updates often, yet never mention hanging out with you? Is his relationship status hidden? We smell a rat. A guy who’s leery of commitment will make sure there are no traces of you on his page. If you are on his page… he will probably even make you look like a friend, comments back not as flirty as you etc. Also if he never “likes” or comments on a photo of you together- Uhh ohh!
6. His Buddies Act Distant
Even though a player’s mates may be friendly enough, they probably won’t ask you many personal questions about your job, interests, etc. The ugly truth: They don’t want to invest time and energy getting to know you because they figure you’re not going to be around very long.
7. He Says You’re Soul Mates
Okay, we adore the idea of love at first sight — but too much too soon could also indicate sketchy intentions. If a guy comes on super strong right off the bat (we’re talking the first couple of weeks), telling you things like that he’s starting to fall in love with you, just make sure you play it safe and trust your gut. Those powerful words might be rolling off his tongue so smoothly because he’s spoken them so many times before.
So ladies.. you’ve been warned!
SOURCES: William July, PhD, Author of Confessions of an Ex-Bachelor and Jenn Berman, PsyD, Relationship Expert.