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Why should guys always have to make the first move?

After a brief discussion with the girlfriend on yet another topic which ended up reverting back to the subject of relationships, it got me thinking about this genuinely nagging issue.

Guys, as sensationally clever as we are, tend to be a bit blind when it comes to certain subjects in life. More so girls than anything else in fact. I’m including myself as a prime example for this case.

Okay so picture it – the situation; guy likes girl, girl likes guy, but guy is completely oblivious to the girl liking back. The outcome? Days, weeks, or even months of confusion on behalf of both parties involved, due to the guy having to make the first move. Sure, the whole suspense thing can be fun, but if a guy is receiving no returned definite signals from a girl, then chances are eventually he’s gonna bail rather than making a move.

This boils down to the fact that in 9/10 cases, guys are expected to make the first move due to that being the “traditional” approach. Guys like the whole “chase” thing, trying to get the girls who show the least interest, as the over eager ones tend to scare us a bit. But, and its a big but, there’s a very fine line between playing hard to get and emitting  sub zero signals, as we need to know it’s safe to make a move.

Why? In some cases we’ll avoid making that move in fear of you “being out of our league”, completely burning us, and laughing to your mates about how awkward us hitting on you was, even if thats far from the real outcome. I’m a confident guy, but I personally don’t like being thrown into embarrassing situations, and I’m not the only guy who dislikes that.

My point? If you like a guy, don’t expect him to make the first move just because “thats how it happens in the movies”. Just because he isn’t making the first move doesn’t mean he doesn’t like you. Guys love when a bit of interest is shown as it removes the barriers and fears associated with approaching a girl for the most part. If he’s making reasonably excessive eye contact, chances are he likes you (unless he’s a screwball). If you like him, let him know, give him a signal. If he’s still blind to it, don’t be afraid to hit on him, guys love being hit on just as much a girls do.

Relationships are changing with the times, and since girls are after the whole equality thing, you’s should apply the same rule to deciding who makes the first move right? Could pay dividends in the end..




  1. April 13, 2011 / 8:24 pm

    It’s only the start, lots of other issues flying this way!

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